45 – Creating Unhappiness

You're always waiting for the future. You need something to happen or need to have something more to be happy.

You're living in the past. You won't or don't let things go. You have trouble forgiving.

You're isolating yourself. You stay at home too much. You're lonely and yet you avoid others.

You keep seeing yourself as a victim. Others or life is "unfair" all the time.

You're chronically pessimistic and rarely have anything good to say.

You're a perfectionist. Nothing and no one are good enough for you. You constantly focus on what's missing, wrong or flawed. You're a glass half-empty kind of person.

You constantly complain and whine.

You blame and find fault whenever you can.

You have a tendency to ruminate and overanalyze.

You frequently blow things out of proportion.

You keep ignoring problems. You won't or don't talk about or deal with things.

You're not changing, growing or developing. You're ignoring yourself and your weaknesses, limitations and faults.

You stay focused on what you don't have but "really need" for some reason. You're determined to "keep up with the Joneses" or have all the latest (and most expensive) toys and goodies.

You're not taking care of yourself by not sleeping enough, eating decently or exercising and being active.

You're wasting too much time by watching TV all evening or getting involved in too much social media, gaming and other time-wasting entertainment.

You tend to hoard stuff and you home environment is cluttered, messy and chronically dirty or disorganized.

You procrastinate whatever you can.

You manage your money poorly. You have significant debt issues.

You have out of control, unhealthy habits. You drink too much alcohol. You use drugs, shopping, eating, sex or porn to cope with the stuff that isn't working in your life.

You feel stuck or overwhelmed. You're avoiding and not dealing with stuff.

You ignore or aggravate relationship problems.

You compare yourself to others, especially on social media.

You're worrying about the future all the time.

You "catastrophize." You see things in the darkest ways possible. You're jumping to conclusions a lot.

You keep assuming others have bad intent or you're expecting the worst from them.

You keep doing stuff you don't like. You're "stuck" in a job or relationship.

You hang around negative people including complainers, users, cynics, the sarcastic, the unhappy or depressed and the mean or angry.

You stay focused on changing others.

You're focused on pleasing others or making others happy. You can't say "no."

You care too much about what others might think.

You're trying to control everything, especially others. You're thinking everyone should play by your rules or do things your way. You're trying to micromanage life.

You're holding grudges, staying bitter and resentful or being judgmental.

You don't have a purpose. You don't know your values. You're not developing meaning. You don't know yourself.

You react to or wait for others. You're not initiating, self-starting or going first.

You're afraid to fail or make any mistakes. You aren't taking good chances. You don't or won't challenge yourself.

You're insecure. You lack self-confidence and self-respect. You're hung up on what you think you lack rather than recognizing who you are. You focus on your perceived flaws rather than your strengths. You keep looking for others to validate you.

You stay bored, complacent or apathetic.

You're way too busy.

You're impatient or impulsive.

You don't spend enough time with yourself (alone).

You have no goals. You aren't actively working toward something.

You stay dependent on others.

You don't think you deserve to be happy.

You ignore, downplay or otherwise fail to take advantage of opportunities (or you stay so distracted you never see any).

You keep chasing the wrong or unimportant things.

You have no spiritual life.

You have no worthwhile or real friends.

You're afraid of yourself.

You don't learn from your mistakes.

You're so focused on or worried about a future "destination" you "can't enjoy the ride."

You focus way too much on yourself or what's in it for you. You don't like to help others with your time, talents or resources. You often see others as not deserving stuff or you see yourself as too busy or "poor" to give meaningfully.

You "settle" and don't pursue what you really want.

You feel entitled or special, others aren't really worthy, and they constantly interfere with or bug you.

You set poor boundaries.

Your never say you're sorry.

45 – Creating Unhappiness

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